Managing Your Move to or in Little Rock: Expectations vs. Reality--Part 102/18/2018Moving is the grown-up equal of high school—everybody is very gungho about the idea, but it is only the folks with pragmatic expectations who wind up having a good time. Sure, it is a new house, a new start, and the possibility of a fabulous new life--but once that last empty moving van pulls away and you're standing there amidst your boxes, you have still got to do the actual work. Managing your move with realistic expectations is the key to starting that new life on the right foot--and that means not only accepting the fact that a new house will not magically suck up the twenty pounds you keep meaning to lose, but that moving is emotionally draining even in the best circumstances and you and your family should allot the time and space to accept that. One of the odd things about a local move--new home, neighborhoods, schools--is that can be harder on the kids than a long-distance relocation. A new residende in another state removes the never-ending requests to go hang with their friends in the old neighborhood, and it may be easier to embrace a new life and new friends when your old ones are in a different time zone. But back to the topic. There are three Ps when it comes to managing your move to or in Little Rock--Purge, Pack, and Pay. What you do not purge has to be packed, and the more you pack, the more you will pay. Expectation—I'll go through old stuff and only hang on to what I love. Reality--you love lots more than you think you do. No matter if you take care of your own packing or hire a professional moving company, you have got to select what is worth the time and money to take with you. Purge Purging is one of those odd terms you don't hear all the time, at least in a positive way. However, releasing the old baggage is one of the best ways that you can allow your new home to bestow your expectations of wonderful. There are lots and lots of rules and pointers to assist you in figuring out the best approaches to go through your old things, from down-to-earth--"if you haven't used/worn it in a year get rid of it"; to a tad off-the-wall--"toss all your negative energy out with the old towels". At its basic level, purging is basically sorting through all the cabinets, closets and drawers and creating three piles: take with you, throw away, donate. Or you could have four piles if you've got a lot of very gently used things that you do not need anymore, and consign those things. The hardest thing about purging is maintaining the neutrality in order to be merciless about getting rid of items. If you stored all those pre-school art projects, how can you toss them and be a great parent? Here is one suggestion—have a friend assist you to pick through items and talk you through why you are holding onto items that are really better thrown away. Having a friend ask you out loud why you want to hang on to the 1980s jelly shoes does put things in relative importance and you'll have a pain-free time growing the get-rid-of pile if you have got someone to support your decisions. If your significant other is the one with the accumulator inclinations, here is a suggestion for assisting an unenthusiastic significant other say good-bye their treasures. Think small, and commence with the kitchen junk drawers, try to limit handling of old matchbooks and broken screwdrivers to one time only and progressively build to bigger items, like collections (for instance, select two or three porcelain bunnies and donate or consign the rest). Catch us next time as we discuss managing your move topics: Pack and Pay, in Part 2 of this blog series.